Get a grip: advice for the leader

Michael McKinney asks Do you argue with reality?

“The number one cause of our unhappiness are the lies we believe in life.” Too often, we operate apart from reality. Given a choice between reality and our version of it, we are inclined to choose the latter. It is a central tendency of human beings. The result is drama not peace.

“Instead of getting the results we want,” says Cy Wakeman, “we end up with reasons, stories, and excuses for why things didn’t work out—leading to more drama, disengagement, judgment, and ineffective leadership.”
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“You are arguing with reality whenever you judge your situation in terms of right and wrong instead of fearlessly confronting what is.” … Too often our criticism is about setting us apart from others and not about helping them. It says a lot more about us than it does those it is directed towards. … Operating out of a judging mindset of “I know” or “I am right” effectively shuts down the potential to learn or accomplish anything.

What should one do? The advice is common: do a reality check, be clear about motives, set the example.

There is a presumption behind all this and it is that one wants to get in touch with reality. That is often not the case.